The fearful-avoidant (sometimes called anxious-avoidant) share an underlying distrust of caregiving others with the dismissive-avoidant, but have not developed the armor of high self-esteem to allow them to do without attachment; they realize they need and want intimacy, but when they are in a relationship that starts to get close, their fear and mistrust surfaces and they distance. In psychology this is called an approach-avoidance conflict; at a distance the sufferer wants to get closer, but when he does, the fear kicks in and he wants to withdraw. This leads to a pattern of circling or cycling, and the fearful-avoidant can often be found in a series of short relationships ended by their finding fault with a partner who seems more threatening as they get closer to understanding them.
INTJs are the strategic, forward-thinking masterminds of the MBTI. Intensely independent and deeply analytical, this type is often perceived as intimidating by those who do not know them well.
- The suffocating feeling of going to sleep without the heat being on versus it being on when you wake up – it’s as if an elephant is sitting on your face.
- Feeling the sun on your eyeball when one piece of your curtain doesn’t cover your window.
- The feeling of your sock slipping off of your foot when you start walking.
- The unreachable itch in the middle of your back that no matter how hard you try you just cannot get it.
- When a song you don’t like comes on your shuffle but the subway is too crowded to reach for your phone and change it.
- Getting into bed only to realize you really need to pee.
- Waking up before your alarm and thinking you have an extra 3 hours to sleep in, when really you have to be up in 2 minutes.
I try really hard to be active during the winter in order to combat the looming depression that comes with the sun setting at 4:30 p.m. – maybe a little too active
Everytime I try to be a good Christian someone tries me and comes to me with some bullshit and makes me lose my cool with them