Come here and go away

Come here and go away

The fearful-avoidant (sometimes called anxious-avoidant) share an underlying distrust of caregiving others with the dismissive-avoidant, but have not developed the armor of high self-esteem to allow them to do without attachment; they realize they need and want intimacy, but when they are in a relationship that starts to get close, their fear and mistrust surfaces and they distance. In psychology this is called an approach-avoidance conflict; at a distance the sufferer wants to get closer, but when he does, the fear kicks in and he wants to withdraw. This leads to a pattern of circling or cycling, and the fearful-avoidant can often be found in a series of short relationships ended by their finding fault with a partner who seems more threatening as they get closer to understanding them.

7 things I would only wish upon my worst enemy

7 things I would only wish upon my worst enemy

  1. The suffocating feeling of going to sleep without the heat being on versus it being on when you wake up – it’s as if an elephant is sitting on your face.
  2. Feeling the sun on your eyeball when one piece of your curtain doesn’t cover your window.
  3. The feeling of your sock slipping off of your foot when you start walking.
  4. The unreachable itch in the middle of your back that no matter how hard you try you just cannot get it.
  5. When a song you don’t like comes on your shuffle but the subway is too crowded to reach for your phone and change it.
  6. Getting into bed only to realize you really need to pee.
  7. Waking up before your alarm and thinking you have an extra 3 hours to sleep in, when really you have to be up in 2 minutes.