In an attempt to be a video honey:
In an attempt to be a video honey:
The issue with the gray area is that people often speak when they’re not moved to speak or aren’t exactly sure what they want. When you’re just hooking up with someone why are you texting them?
Do you want to hang out with them? Do you want to sleep with them? Do you just want attention? Do you want a friend?
The difficult thing about when you start seeing someone is that the moment you sleep with them you begin to have expectations and the more you think and talk about it the more they pile on.
If you sleep with someone the assumption is that they must like you in some way, be attracted to something about you – personality, looks, etc. When you like someone and are attracted to them you want to be around them and spend time with them. The more time you spend with someone the better you get to know them – you want to introduce them to your friends, family, bring them around more often. You want them to prioritize you. What do you do with your friends you like the most? You prioritize them, you carve out time in your schedule to text them, to talk to them on the phone hang out with them, maybe dinner or lunch do activities etc. And before you know it they’re your best friend. You guys take trips together, they know all your secrets and they become apart of your life.
This is what happens with men or women when we are in the gray area and when you add sex. Everything goes out the window.
My suggestion and something I’ve started doing – take time for yourself. Just for your and that person. Keep your shit private and don’t share your moves with everyone. One voice can become a thousand and everybody’s opinion isn’t always necessary or needed. And the bottom line is, a lot of people don’t know what the fuck they’re talking about 🤷🏾♀️
Mega relatable meme, throwback to Colombia and Morocco. Solo drinking in Alphabet City and a beach wedding
A small town of maybe 1,000 people located in the Sierra Nevada mountains. Home to coffee farms, views of the Santa Marta, waterfalls and much more. It’s about an hour outside of the city by bus and once in the town the only mode of transport is moto taxi. For those of you don’t know moto is short for motorcycle. Aka you have to ride on the back of someone’s motorcycle up and down the mountain to see anything.
Let me explain, I’m officially brain dead when it comes to planning and can’t do it anymore so I let my friend Lauren plan this excursion.
At first I thought we would be taking a taxi from location to location in Minca. I then learned there would be motorcycle transport. Which was ok, until I learned it was all motos all the time up and down the mountain… not ok.
The photo above was taken when it was deemed too “sucio” aka dangerous for us to sit on the back of the motorcycles. I know sucio means dirty but in reality those wheels were slipping and sliding around the mud so bad I was convinced we were going to keel over at any moment.
Lucky for us these guys grew up in Minca and have been riding up and down the mountains for years, nevertheless I did not feel better on the back of the moto 😂
Was is worth it? Eh. Would I do it again? Also eh. Anyways – here are the photos. (Yes I threw a little thirst trap in there for you hoes)
Word to the wise. If you’re in Colombia and have an extra 2 days it’s worth going to Tayrona National Park in Santa Marta. Go with a tour company and get ready for some of the most beautiful beaches you’ve ever seen and a bumpy ass 2 hour ride.
Word to the thirsty: charge your phones , the thirst traps are A1
Does anyone else go onto their online dating profiles and swipe on a ton of people and get like no matches?
Or do you match with someone who think is great and you text for 3 weeks, have great chemistry, and make plans to meet up only to have them cancel and ghost?
What about when you finally do match with a bunch of people and send admittingly generic and not clever messages but still cute and never get a response?
So my thoughts on the Hamptons now that my weekend is coming to a close.
I would never come here on my own accord – coming with someone who already has a plan or a trip is great (aka me mooching off my roommates work trip). I say this because the Hamptons is oddly exclusive and weird. Everything is far apart (except for in Montauk where Uber’s are $10 no matter where you go). Side note for a tangent Uber’s here are so fucking expensive. Literally it costs almost the same to go to a different town 20 minutes away and to uber back to the city wtf.
Anyways it’s very vanilla here if you catch my drift and it’s gets a little old. An issue I have with all northeastern places is the beaches are shit. Not to sound spoiled but once you’ve been to any beach south of the mason Dixon you can’t go back. The food however is bomb af, service is great (you get what you pay for) there’s not a ton of hotels and there all kind of old ish and not super nice, like if you paid the same amount for a hotel here as you would in the city you’d be in an executive suite. ALSO there are too many kids here.
Overall I give it a 4/10.
Also look at this awesome photo of my solo breakfast the other day.
I’ve never been a fan of the Hamptons. But I’m here with my roommate right now for a work event she has and I’m not sure if it’s all the wine I’m being spoon fed or what but I’m starting to fall in love.
La Contenta, NY – City Bistro, Hoboken, NJ