Review: Purpose

Purpose: the reason for which something exists or is done, made or used, an intended or desired results; end; aim or goal.

I remember years ago when I was in high school I would rush home after the final bell so I could be home to watch Oprah at 4 p.m. It was literally the highlight of my day. There was one show in particular she did talking about purpose and your life’s purpose and how until she found her purpose she was just living life, instead of living life. There’s a difference.

When you do not have a purpose you’re lost, mentally, emotionally all of the above. I don’t want to say you begin acting out, but you do. There are stages; since you have not found yourself or who you are, you go looking in different places. Whether it’s a bar for a drink, a Bloomingdales, solace in your room with a TV remote or home with a stranger. The aimless wandering through life is much different than the enjoyment of life. The person who doesn’t have their purpose is selfish, they are trying to find themselves so they do not have time for anybody else. How was your day? What new stuff are you working on? Any plans this weekend? These are not things you will hear from this person. The person who doesn’t have their purpose is reckless; they don’t have a bigger picture for their life so all that matters is the now. What will bring me the most pleasure now? What will make for the best story tomorrow? What will make me feel good now, look the best now. They want what they want, when they want it with no regards on how it will affect the future. The person who doesn’t have their purpose has no compassion; this might have come off as a little harsh, what I mean is that they have trouble empathizing with others. When someone makes sacrifice in their life to fulfill their purpose, pinching pennies to travel abroad and teach underprivileged children, moving to a small town because they want to break into the news scene, or quitting your job to pursue a career in writing some people might not understand. Some people won’t get it.

People will ask “Why are you leaving your great career?”, “How are you going to accomplish all of this?”, “What if you meet someone?”, “How are you ever going to save enough money to buy a house?”. Sometimes your purpose doesn’t fall within the ‘norm’, you might not have a 9-5, or a nuclear family with 2.5 children, a dog and a husband, you probably won’t float along the path of life that everybody else does, you might break out and be a little different but that’s ok because at least you’re working towards a goal, a goal that makes you happy, fulfilled and gives you a reason to get up in the morning. Makes you excited about life, about meeting new people, doing new things, taking risks and living.

Review: Tax refund money

Re: $$

You would think that now that I’m a grown adult I would be a little more responsible with my money BUT NO. I managed to spend the entirety of my (federal) tax return money in a mere four days. FOUR DAYS. I know that may not seem like a lot but for a girl who steals tacos from work for dinner I felt like I was fucking Beyonce in a wig store. I mean really, I was ballin out.

Zac posen bag? yes

Michael Kors watch?? why the fuck not

Glam glow mask? I’LL TAKE FOUR

wtf is wrong with me.

What people say vs. what they mean

Since becoming a real adult – aka moving out of my parents house. I’ve learned a lot about life, specifically about the little white lies they tell about their lives to make it seem like they are doing more than they actually are (I do it all the time)

Por ejemplo

What I say to my family when they ask what I’m doing in New York – ” I’m working with a promotions company and am currently on a six month assignment”

What I actually do –  “For four hours a day 3-5 times a week I pass out stickers to children and watch sports”

More ejemplos

  • I do freelance work
  • I’ve worked on two projects in the last three months and therefore consider myself a freelance artists
  • I have like noooo money
  • I have enough money to go out Thursday, Friday and Saturday but can’t participate in Sunday funday and can only buy one new shirt when we go shopping
  • I totally hate my job, I’m looking for a new one
  • I hate my job but I don’t hate my salary, I’m just going to keep complaining about it and talk about how I have no time to find a new one
  • I would totally hang out but I’m so busy!
  • I have like three new episodes of shahs of sunset on my DVR and two new episodes of Love & Hip-Hop on-demand soooo that’s kind of more important
  • I just have no energy, I’m so drained
  • Re:

Temping in the city week 2.5

Another day another $10/hour.

I have now moved on to working as a receptionist at a real estate company. Said real estate company provides employees who request free housing. We all know where I’ll be trying to wiggle my way into.

But seriously, these people have some big bucks. The office is located in a very nice, very exclusive and trendy part of Manhattan [and a convenient 10 minute commute from my apartment] and unfortunately for me they are not looking for new hires, but anyways — moving on.

While on the job I’ve compiled a list of things I do and don’t enjoy .

  • I do enjoy the fact that I don’t need to follow traditional office dress rules
  • If I screw up it doesn’t matter…I don’t work there
  • I don’t enjoy that the person who hired me to temp, doesn’t even know who I am
  • The lunch possibilities are endless – Pinkberry delivers
  • I get to participate in all the office gossip with none of the guilt or nervousness associated with consequences of adding my two cents
  • I enjoy getting a pacycheck
  • I don’t enjoy how small it is
  • I like structure
  • But then again I don’t. I haven’t gotten a chance to marathon Breaking Bad in soooo long

All in all I would say things are going pretty good. I’m not tied down, I still have time to work on my site, It’s a pretty good life.

However; I still don’t have benefits.

 

What I’ve learned from temping p1

  1. I’m not about that life
  2. I’d rather stay up late than wake up early
  3. According to the lowest salaried employee everybody’s an asshole
  4. They can also do the job better than their boss
  5. Shredding is a legitimate part of a job description and a great way to waste a day away
  6. 9-5 doesn’t exist. Does anyone remember that show K 9-5 on Animal Planet? where they had stories of working dogs? Like seeing eye dogs, comfort dogs, police dogs etc. They would follow them around during a day and see what they did. Yea, I really though this was going to be my life, what a fucking idiot I was
  7. People don’t have basic phone manners, don’t call the office while you’re in the middle of a conversation with someone else then act surprised when I pick up the phone.
  8. People don’t know how to use buzz in doors. It’s really quite simple, you ring the doorbell, wait for the buzz then open the door.
  9. People who bring their dogs into work and don’t let employees play with them, are evil.

Review: Work attire

When I was younger, I thought dressing like an adult meant dressing like one of the girls from Sex and the City, imagine my surprise when I discovered this what not the case. One thing a lot of graduates struggle with is wardrobe transitioning from college to real world. Neon bandeaus and leather jeggings are not appropriate for real life, and no 5-inch heels are not business casual. It’s a shock to the system and there will be times when you will slip up and forget that you’re at a 9-5 and not your 3 p.m. math class. There will be times when you try to pair your thigh high heels with a blazer, and attempt to rock a sheer blouse with some business pumps, but as time goes on you will learn.